The Five Stages of First Loss Grief
The Colts came in to this game 14-0. Perfect. Now, they are 14-1. The Jets didn't beat the Colts that won those first 14 games though. They beat one featuring Curtis Painter. I'm no Painter fan at all as most of you would know. The 2008 Notre Dame-Purdue game would be why. However, we are all grieving. This sucks, plain and simple. I feel like I was kicked in the groin right now. Hey, if you need some help, medical people made a list of stages to deal with losses. Those losses are more serious than a somewhat meaningless football game, but the same principles apply.
1) Denial
"Hey look, Manning is still holding his helmet! Don't worry he will be coming back."
"14-0 is not the same as 12-2 or anything similar. Caldwell knows what an undefeated season would mean. He won't rest them."
This occured once Curtis Painter started to warm up on the sideline. All across Indianapolis, hearts stopped for a little bit. People looked for anything to give them hope that Manning was going to come back in to the game. The game went to a commercial, and Colts fans went to stage 2.
2) Anger
"What the f*ck is this sh*t? Boo!"
"Well, there goes the magic from this season!"
"Caldwell is a joke!"
"Polian just cost us the Super Bowl!"
This will probably be the longest stage. More anger was created when Painter made a costly fumble that ended up being the difference. That was a God awful play by Painter, and 19-0 went out the window as fast as the ball went out of his hands. Some people got angry at Caldwell. Other people got angry at the people who were angry at Caldwell. I do not think people are mad at Painter. People shouldn't have expected any different from him. He's not a good QB at all, and no rookie is going to play well when a stadium of nearly 70,000 fans are freaking out. All of the anger is directed at Caldwell. This may be the longest stage. It could also come back harder than ever if the San Diego Chargers give this team a playoff loss.
3) Bargaining
"Please put back in Manning now!"
"It's not out of reach yet as long as Manning and Wayne come back in the game!"
"I'll do anything! Just put Manning back in!"
This one won't last very wrong. When Thomas Jones made it 29-15, this game and the historic stretch was over. Bargaining became futile. Not even God or Brandon Stokley could help you. People won't put this into comments, but they are thinking about it.
4) Depression
"This blows."
"I can't believe it's over."
"This sucks ass."
"I feel like I got kicked in the groin."
This is what I am currently in. It's unbelievable. This sucks. This sucks. This sucks. 14-0 was unbelievable. All of the players look like they are going through this as well. Manning looked like he was about to cry, and Painter looked beat up about it too. I feel bad for Painter and Manning and the whole organization. There was nothing they can do. I'm worried that the locker room may have been destroyed by this. These players look like their dog just died. I can't believe I am still watching this game...
5) Acceptance
"It's all about the Super Bowl."
"I'd rather be 18-1 with a Super Bowl than 18-1 without one."
"16-0 regular seasons mean nothing without a ring."
"Well, I don't have to worry about losing in the playoffs and losing the undefeated season."
"Better the Jets than the Chargers."
"I still like to laugh at the 07 Pats, and I didn't want to lose that."
This is the final stage. Some people may be in it right now. It may be until the 1st playoff game for others. It feels a long way away from me right now. I know I will get there, but I don't know if it will be soon. ESPN and the MSM will be awful tonight and tomorrow and the next week. I don't even want to think about it if they don't win the Super Bowl. I don't know if I will ever fully accept throwing away a chance for 19-0. Even if they win the Super Bowl, the question will come up. "Would this have happened if they were 19-0." I just hope that we are in a position to where we can ponder that thought.
I disagree strongly with this decision. Teams are 7-7 when they rest their starters and they are 3-11 against the spread. Against the spread doesn't mean anything in the standings, but it shows that the team probably underperformed. History is not on the Colts' side right now. If you didn't like hearing about Rivers and the Chargers now, it will be awful now. I'm trying to see the good in this, and I can't find it. Hell, if Peyton goes down the number one draft pick will belong to the Colts. I don't know if this team could beat the Rams without Manning. I'll leave you with one final quote. I think this sucks. If you think 19-0 was meaningless, you are so wrong. 19-0 is something that may never be done. You don't throw away a chance for that. And now that idiot Rex Ryan gets in the playoffs over a more deserving team like the Broncos or Ravens. Only the Jets benefit. If the Colts lose in the playoffs, there will be a terrible uproar.
I will leave you with one quote by the smartest man ever.
"The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different result."
-Albert Einstein
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It was just
terribly dissapointing to see the Colts completely give up on the game. Intellectually, I understand the reasoning behind it. Doesn’t make it suck any less.
Interesting thought from Bill Simmons on twitter: “Question: if indy only wanted to play its starters one half, why not play them in the second half? Or is that too logical?” I would be completely down with this plan. That way, the Colts have a chance to come back and Manning’s crunch time magic can come into play.
by thejoshbaker on Dec 27, 2009 7:23 PM EST reply actions 0 recs
I don't understand the reasoning at all.
Players can get hurt anytime they play a game. How was this quarter and a half any more dangerous? Why was it so critical that the players had to come out at that time? How does it in any way help our chances of winning the Super Bowl? How much will the low moral of the team affect their play negatively? Do people who support this not understand that this team had a chance to stake a claim as the best team to ever play the game, and that opportunity was taken from them, against their wishes, for no good reason?
Explain the “reasoning” because I sure can’t see it.
by HoosierHorseman on Dec 27, 2009 8:30 PM EST up reply actions 0 recs
lets face it-!!~
THE COLTS “THREW” THIS GAME—PAINTER IS NOT GOOD!! 4 FOR 11? ARE U KIDDING ME?? AND— THEY GET A KO RET FOR A TD—THEY GET A FUMBLE FOR A TD!! YEH RIGHT!!~ DANG, MAN!! →. AND AGAINST THE GUYS THATY STARTED-THEY ONLY MUSTER 3 POINTS OFFENSIVELY—IM SURE YEH RIGHT!!~ ALLOW 11 POINTS IN 4TH QUARTER—SCORE NONE—AGAINST WHO!? THERE WA NOBVODY LEFT!~ 15-10 WHEN MANNING & CO. LEFT—BUT DIDN’T CLADWEL LEAR A LESSON FROM WHEN DUNGY DID THE SAME IN YEARS PAST? FO EXAMPLE—2005?? NOW—THEY’RE IN DEEPP-HOPE THESE GUYS DONTR GET TOO LONG OF A REST!!~ REMEMBERR? THEY GOTTA BE FRESH FOR PLAYOFFS,TOO~~ AND WHAT EVER HAPPENED TO TRYING TO TRYING TO WIN A GAME—WITH YOUR BEST-OR THEREABOUTS???
by sczen on Dec 27, 2009 9:16 PM EST up reply actions 0 recs
I just wish they played Manning until we were comfortable with Painter in. Manning should have played one more possession to get a bigger lead.
The truth is, the Super Bowl is more important, but we let one get away, and our shot at history is over.
Manning 2009 MVP
by INDYCOLTSROCK18 on Dec 27, 2009 7:27 PM EST reply actions 0 recs
While I'm disappointed as a fan
I’m much more concerned about the message this sends to the team and how they will respond. I hope Shake is right and that they are true professionals who can really bounch back from this… and quickly.
How can you not love a team that does this?
by LovinBlue on Dec 27, 2009 7:30 PM EST reply actions 0 recs
love einstein so true
"You only get intercepted when you don't know what your doing, I knew what I was Doing."
-Johnny Unitas-
"You're only as healthy as you feel."
-Travis Bickle-
by 805 on Dec 27, 2009 7:54 PM EST reply actions 0 recs
do ya love Rita Mae Brown?
that’s who actually said the “insanity” quote.. Still, I gotta agree with the sentiment in this case. What a crazy decision!
by DonaldP on Dec 27, 2009 11:36 PM EST up reply actions 0 recs
I chose Acceptance
even though I went straight to Anger and skipped over Bargaining and Depression.
It’s over. What am I going to? I’ll watch the game next week and probably yell at the television. I’m disappointed in the decision to sit the starters with the game still close and I hated it.
But, it’s time to see how this works out. It’s not over and when the season is over then I can see what kind of real reaction I’ll have.
by Gwen on Dec 27, 2009 7:54 PM EST reply actions 0 recs
Stages of grief my ass! Caldwell just put himself in a position to have to win the Super Bowl.It’s immoral to intentionally lose a game. Ask the other teams in the hunt.If I go to the store and see an item that I want I’m willing to pay the price, but if the item is dented or scratched I expect a discount.I have tickeys to see the Colts final game against the Bills.I in essence have paid full price for a scratch and dented Colts team. Effen immorral. As a 46 year fan of the Colts I sincerely hope they lose their first playoff game.Nothing can justify giving less than your best. No slight to Painter only detest for Caldwell and management.Even if they win the super bowl (which they won’t )will ever change my mind about this debauchery.
by arcade on Dec 27, 2009 8:12 PM EST reply actions 0 recs
I'm firmly in acceptance mode. I was pretty much as soon as I saw Jets strip sack Painter.
I hope the rest of you find peace soon and come back to cheering for the ENTIRE team soon.
by diagenesis on Dec 27, 2009 8:14 PM EST reply actions 0 recs
The "It's all about the Super Bowl" is a stupid argument
Doing this will do nothing to help, and will likely hurt, our chances of winning the Super Bowl.
And the whole reason we’re angry is we realize that going 16-0 and winning the Superbowl aren’t mutually exclusive, and never were.
The Colts players dreams of football immortality were squashed for a stupid, unprovable theory that this would somehow help them win the Superbowl.
by HoosierHorseman on Dec 27, 2009 8:21 PM EST reply actions 0 recs
This has abslutely nothing to do with 16-0 or the super bowl.Football is a business and this has to do with pissing on your customers-the fans.,So as a cosumer I choose to never buy the product again.
by arcade on Dec 27, 2009 8:36 PM EST reply actions 0 recs
How do we not deserve a playoff spot?
If we beat you guys and Cinci to end the season why not? I know Manning sat out but we still could have won that game even if Manning was in. (it would have been a heck of alot closer) and the broncos deserve it…a team that has gone 2-7 in its last 9 games.
by Jerrad p on Dec 27, 2009 8:42 PM EST reply actions 0 recs
No
You guys are frauds. You beat a JV team to get in. It’s garbage and you know it.
"Brett Favre was a man who thought he was retired, but he knew it wouldn't last."
by Colts Homer on Dec 27, 2009 8:57 PM EST up reply actions 0 recs
I'm pissed off royally.
It looked like we just quit, Polian is an ass to me right now. I know the game didn’t matter, but it was winnable with Peyton in. They were’nt even getting to him. I just don’t get it. It’s going to take me a month to get over this.
"You can't defend the perfect throw, what can I say?" Peyton quoting Marino
"As I grow older, the list of people who can kiss my ass grows longer"-Ancient Hoosier Proverb.
by Indy Lori on Dec 27, 2009 9:10 PM EST reply actions 0 recs
I'll never get over this Lori.
To me, Polian is a monumental tool and he always will be. I hate his philosophy, it’s disgusting and not fair to the players or fans. Imagine attaining 14-0 and intentionally not giving it your best shot to go 15-0. If the Colts management wanted to win this game, they could have. That’s why this is so disgusting.
by Ayrshire on Dec 28, 2009 1:37 AM EST up reply actions 0 recs
It is disgusting.
Management let the fans down. I was there, and let me tell you the crowd was just shocked. Philosophy my ass, The Jets weren’t pounding Peyton, there was no scare there. Peyton said they follow orders with “all their heart”, then why is my heart hurting right now?
"You can't defend the perfect throw, what can I say?" Peyton quoting Marino
"As I grow older, the list of people who can kiss my ass grows longer"-Ancient Hoosier Proverb.
by Indy Lori on Dec 28, 2009 10:00 AM EST up reply actions 0 recs
Thanks Lori
Hearing that from some one who was there justifies my anger even more.
by chihoosierguy on Dec 28, 2009 10:04 AM EST up reply actions 0 recs
what a pathetic team with worst excuses
kma all you foolish coltaholic followers, this is not nfl football. polian was a loser in buf and he is a loser here. was lucky to play a crappy team in 2006. this team is soft with a bunch of sit on the injury list losers that deserve to lose to pats or chargers. get up off ur asses you lazy sobs and earn your money. i don’t care how many childerns hospitals you go to during your time off, u don’t lose to the jets, or any bottom feeder team. where are curtis and mackey when i need them? what a poor excuse for a football team, irsay, polian and on down don’t know shit about winning, that’s why we don’t have more rings
by All Ind on Dec 27, 2009 10:10 PM EST reply actions 0 recs

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